So, I’ve been thinking about saying no. I’m not good at it. I described myself the other day as a recovering oldest child, and I think that says a lot. I’m the oldest of my siblings, the only girl. I have a hard time saying no to requests to do things. I want everyone to be happy. When I had my first kid, I got better at asking for help, which isn’t the same thing exactly, but it’s related.
Now that my kids are older, and I have a job that is not all about being in the classroom, I’m finding the requests are coming in fast and furious. When you are a classroom teacher, people, administrative people, ask you to do things. And, you and they know that most of your day is already spoken for, without any meeting requests being accepted or even suggested. Now that my schedule is not pre-populated with teaching it might appear to be open. Emphasis here is on appear.
Back to the requests. Some of them are great opportunities, like being on search committees. Searches may be time consuming, but they are also super interesting. I love it. Then there are the requests that seem interesting or flattering, and later you realize later you just got the wool pulled over your eyes. It’s a thankless task that the most recent
victim doer-of just got out of doing and now someone needs to do it.
However, sometimes the reason to say yes to a task is not the task itself but the company you will keep in doing it. Sounds like more saying yes.
Then, sometimes it’s an opportunity to do something new or different. More yes.
So, I am wondering, when should I say no?